- Dean Smith
How Friendships Cross Into Affair Territory
Dating Coach, David Wygant of YourTango.com talks about how friendships turn into affairs in this article posted on Huffington Post Divorce;
“In my 15 years of coaching, women have come to me over and over again with the same problem: Falling for a married man. The story always begins the same way: ‘There’s this guy… he’s so great. We connect in every way and he makes my heart flutter like a schoolgirl. I know, I know. He’s married. But we’ve only gone on a couple of innocent dates…’
Then, the guy makes his move.
From the beginning, he tells you what a great friend you are — and how nice it is to finally meet someone he can talk to. You eat it up, thinking to yourself, ‘Yes, talking. That’s all we’re doing…’
Then suddenly things change. He seems different. Before you know it, he makes his move. He springs it upon you ever so slyly, making you feel special; making you feel unique. He’ll say things like, ‘Wow, my wife just doesn’t listen to me like you do.’ Or, ‘She just doesn’t understand me. And it’s really nice to be with a woman that does.’
He’ll tell you this over a glass of Tempranillo as he looks longingly into your eyes, sweetly brushing a stray hair from your face. It’s kryptonite for the nurturing woman. And it kind of sounds like a date. A date with a married man.
Sure, on the surface, he looks like the all-American dad. On the surface, he looks like a great husband. He tells everybody that it’s okay his marriage isn’t passionate. He’s grown so much as an individual he thinks he doesn’t need wild, fulfilling sex anymore. He’d rather have somebody that’s a great mother than someone with great passion because ‘passion dies.’
He’s convinced himself of this.”
We don’t want to speak to the potential other woman like Mr. Wygant is in this article. We want to speak to you, the potential victim of infidelity, and show you how a simple “friendship” may cross over into an affair.
1. Begins with an emotional affair. It may start as business and he’ll defend it by saying, “It’s just a business lunch/dinner,” or “We deserve a harmless happy hour after a long week.”
2. Progression to “innocent” flirting. Example: He’ll send texts telling her he read something reminding him of her.
3. He will tell you about his “friendship”. Speaking freely about this friendship will help him justify it, to you and him.
Whether they want to admit it or not, these men are looking for an affair; emotional or physical, or both.
If you think a friendship or work relationship that your significant other is engaged in has the potential to cross over into affair territory, or maybe it already has, contact the staff at ICU Investigations to get the proof and peace of mind you deserve.
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