Allwomenstalk.com gets a woman to weigh in with their thoughts on an obvious cheater. 17 signs…
1. His Looks
Women aren’t the only sex to adjust their beauty habits while actively in an affair. So when he goes from never bothering to look in the mirror among other hygiene habits to spending more time in the mirror than with you, trouble may be brewing. New clothes in the closet, new haircut, new shoes, a complete overnight change, he may be making a conscious effort to aesthetically please other women.
2. Overtime at Work
If you’ve exhausted all other scenarios and reasons that your husband may actually be working, and you can’t figure out why he’s unreachable while staying late or on business trips, check his salary stub. It will list the hours he’s worked. If the hours aren’t accounted for, then you have the option to move forward with an investigation.
3. New Found Love for An Old Car
Your husband’s car used to be clad in old pizza boxes, water bottles, coffee cups, kids toys, and his smelly gym bag. If he suddenly keeps it squeaky clean and removing all traces of “family” from it, he may be using it for other activities.
4. Hairy Evidence
You’ve found the classic blonde hair when everyone in your household has brown hair. It’s possible that it could be a stray, but if it becomes a trend, start worrying.
5. Shy to Be Shirtless
Allwomenstalk.com explains that, “If he is suddenly ‘shy’ to change in front of you; if he makes sure that the two of you only have sex in the dark; if he wants to shower with the bathroom door locked out of the blue; and if he usually walks around in just his shorts but lately has been covering himself up more than necessary. Could there be a more obvious sign of cheating?”
6. Upset Stomach
Does your man keep blowing you off for lunch? Maybe he’s busy doing something else during lunch break. Does he seem increasingly disinterested in the dinners you cook, even his favorites? He uses excuses like “I have an upset stomach,” or “I’m just not hungry.” He’s been eating somewhere, just not with you.
7. What’s That Smell
You smell perfume from a mile away; on him, on his clothes when he comes home late from work or a “guys’ night out”. The smell becomes increasingly familiar over time and it’s not yours!
8. Liar Liar
If you notice that your husband has been lying to you way too often, if he hasn’t been looking you in the eye when asked where he was or why he’s late and if he has one too many excuse for his actions, confront him. Too many cover ups = trouble.
9. Internet Love
An extreme increase in your husband’s online activity is a big red flag. Allwomenstalk.com states, “He is on his laptop ALL the time and you know it’s not work related. He is suddenly very active on social networking sites and it’s not just old friends he’s catching up with. He even has new email accounts that you don’t have the password to. Tip of the iceberg: When you suddenly walk into the room, he closes chat windows or the laptop screen itself and seems uncomfortable. Is he trying to hide his communication with someone?”
10. Bank Statements
A bank statement will tell you where your husband’s been (and when). Lingerie store? Jewelry store? Restaurants on the late night? If it’s not Valentine’s Day and your anniversary isn’t coming up anytime soon, start worrying.
11. Dry Spells
Couples go through dry spells without sex all the time. But if it’s been way too long for you and he’s not even interested in your advances or giving you a totally negative response, he may be getting his kicks elsewhere.
12. Secret Conversations
Allwomenstalk.com asks, “Do you ever catch him talking in a low voice or quickly finishing conversations when he sees you? Does he always keep his phone close by or leave the room when he gets a call?” The above mentioned behaviors are not common for someone that has nothing to hide.
13. Picking Fights
If he’s consistently picking fights and using them as an excuse to leave the house for a little to “cool off”, this can be his way out to see other women.
14. He Accuses You of Cheating
A guilty conscious will eventually overflow, and your partner randomly and without reason accusing you of cheating is another big red flag.
15. Need for Privacy
A sudden need for privacy should raise suspicions for you. Trust is key in all relationships, and he’s been keeping things from you. Find out why.
16. Mood Swings
“Does he appear to be happy and in good spirits when he’s leaving home but when he comes home he’s sad and withdrawn?” Look for his emotional behavior and identify when he’s in a better mood. If it’s when he’s leaving, something’s up.
17. Cold Shoulder
When a partner is cheating, it’s not uncommon to feel like the two of you are inevitably growing apart. There’s less communication, they start to give you the cold shoulder, and become increasingly emotionally detached.
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