Dean Smith
Feb 19, 20144 min
Allwomenstalk.com gets a woman to weigh in with their thoughts on an obvious cheater. 17 signs…
Women aren’t the only sex to adjust their beauty habits while actively in an affair. So when he goes from never bothering to look in the mirror among other hygiene habits to spending more time in the mirror than with you, trouble may be brewing. New clothes in the closet, new haircut, new shoes, a complete overnight change, he may be making a conscious effort to aesthetically please other women.
If you’ve exhausted all other scenarios and reasons that your husband may actually be working, and you can’t figure out why he’s unreachable while staying late or on business trips, check his salary stub. It will list the hours he’s worked. If the hours aren’t accounted for, then you have the option to move forward with an investigation.
Your husband’s car used to be clad in old pizza boxes, water bottles, coffee cups, kids toys, and his smelly gym bag. If he suddenly keeps it squeaky clean and removing all traces of “family” from it, he may be using it for other activities.
You’ve found the classic blonde hair when everyone in your household has brown hair. It’s possible that it could be a stray, but if it becomes a trend, start worrying.
Allwomenstalk.com explains that, “If he is suddenly ‘shy’ to change in front of you; if he makes sure that the two of you only have sex in the dark; if he wants to shower with the bathroom door locked out of the blue; and if he usually walks around in just his shorts but lately has been covering himself up more than necessary. Could there be a more obvious sign of cheating?”
Does your man keep blowing you off for lunch? Maybe he’s busy doing something else during lunch break. Does he seem increasingly disinterested in the dinners you cook, even his favorites? He uses excuses like “I have an upset stomach,” or “I’m just not hungry.” He’s been eating somewhere, just not with you.
You smell perfume from a mile away; on him, on his clothes when he comes home late from work or a “guys’ night out”. The smell becomes increasingly familiar over time and it’s not yours!
If you notice that your husband has been lying to you way too often, if he hasn’t been looking you in the eye when asked where he was or why he’s late and if he has one too many excuse for his actions, confront him. Too many cover ups = trouble.
An extreme increase in your husband’s online activity is a big red flag. Allwomenstalk.com states, “He is on his laptop ALL the time and you know it’s not work related. He is suddenly very active on social networking sites and it’s not just old friends he’s catching up with. He even has new email accounts that you don’t have the password to. Tip of the iceberg: When you suddenly walk into the room, he closes chat windows or the laptop screen itself and seems uncomfortable. Is he trying to hide his communication with someone?”
A bank statement will tell you where your husband’s been (and when). Lingerie store? Jewelry store? Restaurants on the late night? If it’s not Valentine’s Day and your anniversary isn’t coming up anytime soon, start worrying.
Couples go through dry spells without sex all the time. But if it’s been way too long for you and he’s not even interested in your advances or giving you a totally negative response, he may be getting his kicks elsewhere.
Allwomenstalk.com asks, “Do you ever catch him talking in a low voice or quickly finishing conversations when he sees you? Does he always keep his phone close by or leave the room when he gets a call?” The above mentioned behaviors are not common for someone that has nothing to hide.
If he’s consistently picking fights and using them as an excuse to leave the house for a little to “cool off”, this can be his way out to see other women.
A guilty conscious will eventually overflow, and your partner randomly and without reason accusing you of cheating is another big red flag.
A sudden need for privacy should raise suspicions for you. Trust is key in all relationships, and he’s been keeping things from you. Find out why.
“Does he appear to be happy and in good spirits when he’s leaving home but when he comes home he’s sad and withdrawn?” Look for his emotional behavior and identify when he’s in a better mood. If it’s when he’s leaving, something’s up.
When a partner is cheating, it’s not uncommon to feel like the two of you are inevitably growing apart. There’s less communication, they start to give you the cold shoulder, and become increasingly emotionally detached.
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